Why You Should Embrace Homeschool Gaps

In the UK they have a common phrase that’s heard when people are stepping onto the train platform.  “Mind the gap.”  The “gap” refers to the space between the platform and the train.  And one should be careful to step over it and not into it.  Cuz, yikes, that wouldn’t be good!

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Gaps are scary.

And not just literal gaps, but figurative gaps, you know like… *ahem* education gaps.  Or let’s get more personal.  HOMESCHOOLING gaps.

As a new homeschooler, one of my main goals was making sure we would NOT have education gaps. In fact, that was THE motivating factor in me buying an all in one boxed curriculum for our first two years. The idea of gaps made me tremble in my boots.

Nevermind that there was very little joy using the boxed curriculum. It was my safety net.  It meant that I was doing things right and we were going to cover all our bases.

I often wish I could go back to my first year of homeschooling, and start a little bit differently, a little bit more gently, listening to the interests of my kiddo more.

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Gaps have continued to haunt me over the years.

And I know I’m not alone! Right?

This past year was really the first year that I’ve begun to accept that gaps are inevitable AND that they are OK, and *GASP* even to be embraced!

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In his book, Passion-Driven Education Connor Boyack states this obvious yet important truth:

“Not every person needs to know the same things, let alone all things.”

Every education includes gaps.

A big “a-ha” moment for me was when I truly considered how all educations have gaps.

Think about this…  Did you learn everything you needed to know for life in school, or have you had to learn things “on the fly”?

Guess what?  When you taught yourself something new, you were filling in a gap!

Public school.  Private school.  Charter school.  Homeschool.

You name it.  There are gaps.

There is beauty in the gaps.

Gaps mean our kiddos are spending a good chunk of time studying their interests, rather than only filling their minds with information the curriculum or standards deem important.  Or worse yet, learning something ONLY because it’s going to be on a standardized test.

Gaps mean our kids are growing in skills that they are excited about, and may possibly pursue a career in someday.

Children are more likely to retain information when they’re curious in a subject matter.

And if we’re so busy dotting all of our i’s and crossing our t’s, we’re missing out on those curious moments, and guess what, those are gaps too!  And in my opinion, those gaps are much more grievous.

If we spend our days trying to “mind the gap” in our kid’s education, there may not be time or energy left for them to dive into their interests.

So rather than “minding the gap”, maybe we should keep in mind our child’s interests in our homeschool environment.

Education is not the filling of a bucket but the lighting of a fire.


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Why I Named My Blog ‘Outside the Box Learners’

Perhaps the most difficult aspect of starting a blog, at least for me,  is all the ideas of possible posts that come to you and then having to decide what to write about next.  Well… that and the logistics of creating a website!  But to think I originally thought I might not have enough to write about!  Ha!  This has been a fun adventure for me.  Re-discovering the joy I experience while writing has been amazing, and the fact that I get to fuse it with my everyday job of homeschooling my kids makes it even better!

My blog is still very young at this point.  Before I write any more posts, I wanted to address why I named my blog  ‘Outside the Box Learners’.  It actually was my first choice for a website name and was thrilled it was available!

Defining ‘Outside the Box’

Let’s start with a definition of ‘outside the box‘.   When I hear those words I think of anything that is not conventional, or anything different from the norm.  Not mainstream.

According to Dictionary.com, ‘outside the box’ is an idiom that means:

“in an innovative or unconventional manner; with fresh perspective”

What is an ‘Outside the Box Learner’

This might more appropriately be stated who is an outside the box learner?  People are who’s, not what’s, after all!  Unless maybe you are a character in a Dr. Seuss book. 😉

Since we’ve already covered what ‘outside the box’ means, it should be clear what an ‘outside the box learner’ is, because we’re just tagging learner to our definition.   And thus we get: A learner who learns in an innovative or unconventional manner or a learner with a fresh perspective.

When I first got the bug to start a blog, I knew I wanted to write about my homeschooling experiences both of my son with dyspraxia and also my daughter who is gifted, especially in the creativity arena.  From the little research I did about ‘outside the box’ students, it was my guess that my daughter more readily fit the stereotype usually thought of when one hears the words ‘outside the box‘.

Outside the Box Learners Learn in Unconventional Ways

Being the analytical person I am, I really thought about those words ‘outside the box’, specifically how they mean unconventional and outside the norm.  I use unconventional methods to homeschool both my 8 and 10-year-old.

For my son, I frequently make modifications to help him succeed, specifically with handwriting, which is very hard for him.  He is very asynchronous in that his reading capabilities and handwriting capabilities are lightyears apart.  If he was in a regular classroom, he would not be your typical student.  I LOVE that I am able to meet him where he’s at and he doesn’t have to feel like he’s “less than” or just “can’t keep up” due to his difficulties with handwriting.   And he is able to maintain a love for learning!

My daughter is my creative child who definitely approaches things with a fresh perspective.  She is inventive and always thinking of something new to try (as I write this she’s making sushi, which she’s done before, but this time experimenting with new ingredients!).  She is in her happiest and most peace-filled state when she is creating something new.  Her mind is in a constant state of motion. She hates worksheets and anything conventional really and learns by doing and teaching.   In my opinion, she is a poster child for an “outside the box learner”.

Emphasis On Learners

Since I knew I would be writing a lot about my kids and our homeschool, I wanted to emphasize learners in my website name.  And really the whole reason I’ve come around to homeschooling the way I do is to meet their needs, which I talk about in this post: How We Became Outside the Box Learners.

They learn in unconventional ways, so I’ve come around to teaching in unconventional ways.

 

 

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A Very Unschool-y Day

I really wanted to title this something like ‘Katie and the very good, super productive, still filled with learning, unschool-y day.’   A fun title, but way too long for a blog post title.

We Are Not Unschoolers

I am not an unschooler.  Let’s just get that out there.  I DO think unschoolers who execute it well give their children a huge gift.  There are elements of our homeschool that are unschool-esque such as many I mention in this post about how we became outside the box learners, and also the planning backwards method I use.  But at the end of the day, I do have somewhat of a plan.  I consider us more child-led homeschoolers.  If learning more about child-led homeschooling is something that interests you, I recommend the book, Educating the WholeHearted Child by Sally Clarkson.

House Organizing

Our house has fallen into a bit of disarray.  Ok, not really… but for this clutter-phobic mom, it has.  And eventually, the clutter really starts to get to me!  Winter is coming and all the winter gear is about to come out of the attic and there is no place to put it.  Well, there wasn’t… until our very unschool-y day.

My youngest is doing a year of pre-k this year and the days he has school are when we get the most done, naturally.  I’m sure any of you who have busy, mischievous 4-year olds who wake up at 5:30 a.m. ready to conquer the world destroy the house, understand.  I digress…

Since my youngest had off school yesterday I decided earlier in the week it would be an organizing day for me/unschool-y day for the kids.  Of course, I relied a bit on my lovely daughter to entertain her 4-year old little brother for parts of the day.  Which she is really good at!   I managed to get a TON done.  And I really think my less cluttered house will allow me to be a more productive mom, as outward clutter definitely exasperates my already cluttered, trying it’s best to multi-task, mind.

Where the Unschool-y Day Took Us

The great thing about organizing is discovering things you haven’t used in a while. Such as this Discovery Kids Activity World Map that we’ve had for 5 years (but haven’t used for 2 years).  It’s meant to hang on the wall, but we found it to be just as fun on the ground.  Joe spent a good chunk of time, putting all the labels in their place!

As usual, much of the day was spent with a nose in a book.

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And another discovery, a wooden tangram tetris puzzle, found in our mudroom while I was organizing!

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And it wouldn’t be an unschool-y (or a typical day for that matter), without a creation made by our in-house baker.

The creation of the day: Homemade Oatmeal Packets

Child-led learning

Joe and I had a chance to venture out in the marsh in our backyard. We both needed some fresh air and activity!  Because it’s so thick back there, we have to wait until the plants all die to hike there, which is now through the end of winter.  If you go far enough you run into the creek!

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And here Joe is classifying volcanic rocks with his Rocks Activity Kit.

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Also, we were able to finish The Tale of Despereaux, our book club book for November.  This was accomplished because I was able to get the audiobook from my library app.  We did not expect to finish it in one week, but the kids loved it and kept requesting more.  Also, it was a pretty quick read, or ‘listen’!  As a side note, I just discovered there is full motion picture for this story.  It will be fun to watch it and compare to the book.

All in all a pretty good day!

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Letting Go of Normal: Homeschool vs. School at Home

Normal.  What is normal anyway? I don’t have the answer to that.  I know our current version of normal, and it probably looks different from yours, and that’s ok!

Homeschool vs. School at Home

This post is as much for me as it is for anyone reading this.  Writing helps me process my thoughts.  It helps me sort them out.  And I’m needing a heavy dose of reminding of what homeschooling is all about.  And it is NOT the same as school at home!

I am a recovering “School at Home-er”.  Is that a thing?  Part of it stems from my few years in the classroom as a 4th-grade teacher.  And part of it just stems from my rule-following, slightly rigid personality.   If you’ve read my post: How We Became Outside the Box Learners, then you already know that our homeschool has transformed from what it originally was.  I’ve had to tweak things over the years to find a rhythm that works for our family.  It is a constant work in progress by the way.  And it’s been a bumpy road at times getting here.

A Unique Start to the Year

We had a unique start to this school year.   The first few weeks of the year were spent out west in Yellowstone National Park!  That actually stressed me out a bit.  I mean, I wanted to start strong with our routine here at home.   It’s part of my rule-following nature.  But truly, what nature experience can compare to Yellowstone.  My kids learned a ton – a ton of info that will actually stick since it was interesting and in the context of real life, not just a textbook.  

When the kids arrived home from the trip, I got sick and we lost a couple of days.  The days were not really lost but I had to command the ship from the bed  – which shouldn’t have but did leave me to feel defeated.    Then we had a few days with appointments and such.   And now, it’s October!  Aaaagh!

Breathe Katie, breathe…

Checking or NOT checking the boxes

So, here I am reminding myself that homeschool is not the same as school at home.  It’s ok if the boxes aren’t all checked each day…  It’s ok that the first few weeks of the year were not at our house.  It’s ok if some days we spend a few hours on math, but zero on reading.  Or if we spend the day or part of the day serving together as a family, but don’t get to read as much.   Or if handwriting for the day is writing something completely unrelated to what’s in our handwriting workbook.  I am constantly learning to watch for cues of my kiddo’s brains being engaged and then trying to run with that.

After all, “Education is not the filling of a pail but the lighting of a fire”.  

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How We Became “Outside the Box Learners”?

Isn’t it funny how so often things in life come about from what DOESN’T work? We can make plans but must adjust if we are hitting a wall.  

Homeschooling Outside the Box Was Not the Original Plan

I did not set out to be “outside the box” in regards to homeschooling my kids. I’m a planner and there are plenty of well-planned out homeschool curriculums. I would prefer to be using one of those lovely well planned out curriculums. I’m a list person. A box checker. I prefer to have my plan and stick to it. However a lot of methods that SHOULD work and DO work for most families, simply are the not the best way of learning in our home.

We have a wall hanging in our school rooms that says “Mistakes are lessons inside out. I had it custom-made for my daughter – to remind her it’s OK and NECESSARY to make mistakes! It’s part of the learning process!

Our family has come around to this “outside the box” approach to learning in an inside-out way. And it has been downright frustrating for me at times. There have been tears shed by more than one person…..including myself! And definitely more than once!

And the truth of the matter is my kids did not become “outside the box learners”. They always were. It just took me a few years and to catch on and have the confidence to do things in less conventional ways.

Finding What Works With Our Outside the Box Learners

After years of trying things that “should have” worked, I’ve learned to follow my kids’ lead more. Sometimes that means stopping what we’re doing, and continuing at night while drinking hot chocolate after younger siblings have gone to bed. Sometimes
it means switching between different types of math curriculum throughout the year. Often it means checking out loads of books at the library on whatever is interesting to them that week…..or decade! For my creative child, it frequently means letting her get her inventive ideas out of her head in the morning so she can more fully focus on her work later in the day.

Ultimately it means letting go of the idea of doing “school at home” (as a former 4th-grade teacher this is hard for me!) and remembering one of the beautiful things about homeschool is the flexibility it offers. This attitude/philosophy is a work in progress for me. I have certainly not arrived. And I am too much of a list/plan person to let all routine go to the wayside. I do have things I expect my kids to accomplish each day.

However, every day I also try to give them time to create, imagine, play and read. And the great thing is, when we’re in the rhythm of this, it doesn’t feel like school. It’s enjoyable and there’s plenty of learning happening. Just not the way I expected it to.

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