4 Things I Would Do Differently My First Year of Homeschooling

I’m in my 6th year of homeschooling.  I started when my daughter was in Kindergarten. That first year I wanted to keep things as simple as possible, so I bought an all-in-one boxed curriculum.  This did not work the best for my oldest child and you can read a little about that here where I talk about how we became outside-the-box learners.

I had very few homeschool mentors in those early years, not to mention hardly any homeschool friends.  I was not homeschooled (13 years of public school here!)  And I did not have a ton of direction.  And having the background of being a classroom teacher, I very much thought of homeschooling as doing school at home.

I think having a few people that can help and come alongside you during those first few years is CRUCIAL and is part of the reason I’m passionate about my blog and hopefully providing encouragement to moms, especially moms out there homeschooling their outside-the-box kids.

I know it’s not good to dwell in the past, but I do often think about what I would do differently if I could turn back time.  So if you’re new to homeschooling (especially if you’re homeschooling a kindergartener or 1st grader) or just need some encouragement that homeschooling DOES not need to look like school at home, read on!

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4 things I would do differently my first year of homeschooling

1) I would skip the language arts curriculum- and just read aloud to them! 

Turn your child on to the beauty of great stories!  Read, read, and then read some more!  Two books that have great read-aloud suggestions are Honey For A Child’s Heart and Books Children Love.

2) I would rest in the fact that homeschooling can be FUN and doesn’t have to be painful feel like school. 

My first year I tried to do “circle time”- morning time with the weather and days of the week, number of days of school, etc..  My daughter despised circle time but I felt like I needed to do it because that was what kids did at school.  Oh, how I wish I could go back and ditch the circle time.

If your child has an interest, it is ok to go along with that interest, and go deep with it!  Get tons of books on whatever topic they’re interested in!  Play games, take nature walks, bake together…  enjoy each other!

3) I would have focused on hand-strength and letter formation in other mediums (sand, salt, shaving cream, play dough, etc.) over actual handwriting…

ESPECIALLY for my son with fine motor issues, and I would’ve waited until AT LEAST age 6 to get out the handwriting workbooks!    If kids are interested in handwriting, then that’s different, let them write!  

First Year of Homeschooling

 

I also would’ve gotten Thinking Putty (great for building hand strength, which is necessary for fine motor skills) for my kids to play with during read-aloud.

We have about ten cans now (they get some each year for Christmas and birthdays!), and just today they enjoyed playing with their thinking putty during our read-aloud time.  My daughter specifically chose her Super Scarab Putty to go along with our story which is set in Ancient Egypt!

4) I would’ve ditched the math curriculum and DEFINITELY would have ditched the timed tests!

IT IS NOT NECESSARY FOR A 6 OR 7-YEAR-OLD TO DO TIMED MATH TESTS!  Oh, the tears that didn’t need to be shed…  Makes this mama’s heart break.   Now if you have a kid who loves timed tests, go for it!  But if you don’t, know there are plenty of other ways to learn the facts.

 

If I could go back to kindergarten and 1st grade for my oldest child, I would play lots of number games that focus on the facts and number sense.  Most kids these days do not have a good foundation with their facts, which means everything math-related is going to be more difficult.

This book has great ideas for math games:

Hopefully, my loss can be your gain.  Homeschooling does not need to be a difficult thing.  It can, and SHOULD be enjoyable.

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6 Easy Mood Busters for Homeschool Families

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Let’s face it.  If you’re a homeschool family, you’re together A LOT.  You get to make tons of amazing memories together, but you also see the less than ideal sides of each other – A LOT.  There are times when the mood in your home will go south (FAR south) and you just want to throw the day away and start fresh.  But that’s not how it works…

In this post, I’ve included some of the ways we combat crabbiness in our own home.  Mind you our kids are 4, 8, 10…  SO, if it’s moody teenagers you’re dealing with, well, I can’t really speak to that.

Read Aloud

It’s amazing to me how reading aloud a good book(whether print or audiobook) can bring everyone together.  Notice I said a GOOD book.  You’ve got to pick one that will draw them in.  For us that good book is currently Farmer Boy on audiobook, read by Cherry Jones.  The whole family enjoys listening to it.

I’ve got a saying that was inspired by a certain movie with Kevin Costner from the 80’s, “If you read it, they will come.” And hopefully snap out of it!

Music

With winter here, (no not technically, but let’s face, temps in the teens and 20’s, um yeah… that’s winter!), I know my own mood is sinking just a bit.  I don’t have that skip in my step that I have when the sun is shining or when I hear the birds singing.

For me, music is always a mood changer.  Lately, our family has been playing Slugs & Bugs around mealtimes and it really can change a climate of fighting and crankiness to one of smiles and laughter.  And with Christmas around the corner, I just have to add, Slugs & Bugs Christmas has been their favorite Christmas album for 8 years!  It’s a winner!

Games

Games can be a mood changer, provided you don’t have anyone in your family that is super competitive.  No one has kids (or spouses) like that, right!?  But seriously, if the mood is tense, playing a game together may be able to cut through the tension.  You can find a few of our favorites in this post.

Poetry Teatime

Bake a treat.  Light a candle.  Set out the tablecloth and just enjoy reading some poetry together.  Never tried Poetry Teatime?  You can learn about it here: Poetry Teatime 101.

Get Outside

This may not be a possibility due to your climate. And I will admit, I thoroughly despise feeling cold.  BUT, it is amazing how therapeutic being outside can be.  I have seen how just going outside can change the moods in my kids pretty drastically, not to mention quickly.

Pray

Sometimes, especially if it’s you with a bad mood, you may just need to remove yourself from a situation and pray.   And if you can’t remove yourself, just pray right where you are. Even if you don’t feel like it. In fact, it’s always best to start with prayer!

I’d love to hear from some of you…  What do you do to combat crabbiness in your  home?  Leave your comment below.

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3 Books to Help Your Family Reflect on the Meaning of Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is rapidly approaching!  Um… 8 days away!  As I pulled out the books we use to prepare for, and reflect on the meaning and history of Thanksgiving, I thought it would be nice to share them here.

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Books about Thanksgiving

The Story of the Pilgrims by Katharine Ross is a picture book perfect for the littlest learners.  There is not as much text, but the text that is there is true to the history of Thanksgiving.  The pictures are simple, yet vibrant. It’s a very easy and short read.

Books about Thanksgiving

Another picture book, Three Young Pilgrims, by Cheryl Harness, has a bit more text and the pictures have a great level of detail. A perfect book for kids who love lots of information tidbits, this book has quite a few illustrations with intricate detail and labeling. I’ve included a picture of one page so you can see what I mean.  This book is always a favorite with my kids.

Page from Three Young Pilgrims displaying detail:

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Books about Thanksgiving

And finally, a beautiful hardcover book (coffee table worthy) that is meant to be read aloud, Thanksgiving A Time to Remember, by Barbara Rainey, is a book that goes into more detail of the Thanksgiving story.  It is meant to be read aloud as a family over the course of a week.  It could also be read in one long sitting. There are pictures included, but it is not a picture book.  This book was put out by Family Life Publishing and also includes a CD of worshipful instrumental music.  This one is pretty pricey on Amazon, and unfortunately not much cheaper on Ebay.  But it is a good one!

Happy reading!

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Benefits of Reading Aloud To Your Children

“You’re never too old, too wacky, too wild, to pick up a book and read to a child.” – Dr. Seuss

There are SO many benefits of reading aloud to your children.  I give three big reasons here, but if you want to read more about reading aloud to your kiddos, check out the links at the end!

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Read-Alouds were my “norm”.

I grew up in a family where read-alouds happened every night. As a kid, I assumed that’s how it was for everyone. It’s just what was done at bedtime. That was my “norm”. My parents were heavily influenced by Jim Trelease’s “Read-Aloud Handbook”. They took his advice and research about the multiple benefits of reading aloud and were motivated to put it into practice. Thanks, mom and dad! When my firstborn child was born, it was a no-brainer that we would read to her, because that’s just what you do, right?! Well if frequent read-alouds were your “norm” then yes, but if not, you may need more convincing.

There are countless benefits of reading aloud to your kids, but here I will discuss three that are key:

1) Read-Alouds Benefit Your Child Academically

Read-alouds help kids grow a richer vocabulary, develop their comprehension skills, and hear grammar used correctly.

When a child is being read to, they can relax a bit more and just enjoy the storyline. This will allow them to focus on building their comprehension skills. And for a struggling reader, being read to is especially crucial. Just because they struggle doesn’t mean they can’t grow their brains through a hearing a good book read aloud. We personally experienced this with our son, who was a late reader. Before he was able to read, we read to him A LOT, and his vocabulary was impressive. By the time he started reading on his own, he took off like a rocket. He had already built a good foundation of language (and this is a kid with some language processing difficulties).

According to the 1985 commission on reading, which Jim Trelease refers to in his book, The Read-Aloud Handbook:

“The single most important activity for building the knowledge required for eventual success in reading is reading aloud to children.”

I find it amazing that reading aloud to our kids can have that huge of an impact.

2) Read-Alouds Promote Family Togetherness

My two older kids are now great readers, yet I still read aloud to them. When we read a book together, we laugh together. We cry together (well maybe just me!) and talk about the characters. We connect over the story. It’s something we do together – a shared experience. Much like you share the experience of a family vacation or any other event. It’s a commonality you all have that you can reference back to. All the time my kids are saying, “Remember that book about…..”. It is a means of helping us bond as a family. It helps us connect in a non-confrontational way, where conversation comes organically and easily.

3) Read-Alouds Help Us Raise Up World-Changers.

I ask myself a lot – what is my main goal in educating my children? For me, my main purpose is that my children love God and others and would have a lifelong love of learning. Of course, I do hope they all get jobs and can be successful at whatever career path they choose, but that’s not what is MOST important.

In her book, The Read-Aloud Family Sarah Mackenzie states, “Education is at its best when we use it to help our children feel another person’s pain or joy.” Also, “We read with our children because it gives both them and us an education of the heart and mind.”

When we read a book, it invites us to see life from someone else’s perspective. Seeing things from a different perspective builds empathy, which allows us to love others better and show greater compassion. I think we could all agree that compassion is something this world is in short supply of.

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This post was inspired by the two books listed below (both mentioned in the article). If you want to read even more about the importance of reading aloud to your kiddos, check them out!

The Read-Aloud Handbook by Jim Trelease

The Read-Aloud Family by Sarah Mackenzie

 

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How Can I Get My Kid to Read?

Do you ever ask yourself, “How can I get my kid to read more?”  Whether your kids are readers or not, here some tips that are sure to get them reading more!

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1. Read aloud to your kids. 

There are so many benefits to reading aloud to your kids. Getting them motivated to read for pleasure on their own is just one of those benefits! Check out “The Read-Aloud Handbook” by Jim Trelease or “The Read-Aloud Family” by Sarah Mackenzie to learn more about the importance of reading aloud, and if you need some book ideas, here is a list to get you started.

2. Get books your kids are interested in.

For us, that is anything weather/natural disaster for our 8-year-old and cookbooks/sushi books for our 10-year-old. Our 4-year-old will “read” just about anything. Use your library! So many great books right at our fingertips for “free”!

3. Have books in every room, and the car too! 

We use baskets, bags, bookcases, whatever can hold books! And yes this may get a little annoying,  but isn’t it worth it, to have readers?

4. Leave books ‘face up’ around the house.

Especially in a place your kids are likely to lounge. For us, that’s our living room. The fronts or ‘faces’ of books are way more likely to entice a child to read.

5. Be a reader yourself.

Set an example! If your children see you reading for pleasure, they will be more likely to do so themselves.

Two great reference books (both include book lists):

           

Do you have any tips to add?  Please leave a comment below!

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